What is the proper way to taste test scotch?—R.S., Logan, Utah The traditional method is to look, sniff, cup and sip. First, hold the glass up to check the whiskey's color, which it picks up from the barrel during aging. A lighter color usually suggests the scotch was aged in a bourbon cask and a darker color in a sherry cask. A tulip-shape glass or brandy snifter will assist you when you "nose" the scotch. You may notice an earthy smell or aromas of vanilla, caramel, florals, spices or fruits. Next, cup the glass in your hand to warm the whiskey. Most people add at least a few drops of water to open the flavor and because most whiskey at proof strength will numb your tongue. Finally, take a large sip and try to deled the flavors as it rolls over your tongue. Also pay attention to the taste after you swallow, known as the "finish." The best way to sample a number of scotches without risking $60 to $80 on a bottle is to organize a tasting party with friends—everyone brings a bottle to share and/or contributes to the pot to buy a bottle no one has tried. Take notes as you try each scotch, because your memory at the end of the night won't be as sharp as when you arrived.
After seeing a porn video featuring a Feeldoe strapless vibrating strap-on, I had to have one. It has an egg-shape knob a woman places in her vagina and holds in place; the other end is a dildo that goes into the guy's ass. I haven't been brave enough to take it out of the package, but I have a naughty fantasy about my husband eating my girlfriend's pussy while I bury the toy in his butt. I want to show him how good it feels when he gets my tail. My girlfriend is pushing me to try this as long as she gets a turn while he eats me out. I would love to, but my husband has never done anything so kinky, and I'm afraid
he'll think I'm nuts. How can I make this happen?—B.R., Vestal, New York
Slicking a dildo into your husband's ass is a delicate art: without proper preparation it won't be erotic or pleasurable. It should not be a surprise. You need to work up to such activities with fingers, smaller toys and plenty of lube, which we hope is the experience you had before your husband first penetrated you. Tell him you and your girlfriend have been talking and, if he's willing, would like to have a threesome in which the women are in charge. Resist the urge to whip out your Feeldoe and add, "And we're bringing this, bull boy!" Instead, experiment during the
threesome with tongues and well-tubed fingers and gauge his reaction. If it goes well and you arrange for another threeway, have your girlfriend "bring" the Feeldoe so \ou and she can fuck each other. Then, perhaps during the third romp, present your advanced perversion for his consideration.
I spent much of my youth masturbating and now have a problem with premature ejaculation. Also, I was circumcised for medical reasons when I was five. If a circumcision is performed well after birth, is stitching involved that could cause an area to be extra sensitive
under the head? I don't have the courage to ask my mother about the procedure.—A.D., Buffalo, Minnesota
We doubt your mother knows much about the circumcision itself, but she may be able to give you a better idea of why it was done. The spot you 're referring to is sensitive in every guy, cut or not. This "sweet spot," known as the frenulum, is the point where the foreskin attaches, or was attached, to the shaft. Most young men spend a lot of time masturbating: you may have a problem with rapid ejaculation because you've conditioned yourself to come quickly (to avoid being caught) and always use the same type of stimulation. Masturbate using different techniques, and pay closer attention to when you approach that point of no return so you can practice backing off the moment before that moment.
On a plane to Cleveland I sat next to a cute Asian woman. Her English wasn't good so I kept leaning closer to understand, and that's when it hit me like a slap in the face—the worst breath I have encountered. She was on her way to a job interview and asked if I had any advice. I shook my head no. Should I have told her?—S.V., Sarasota, Florida
Yes. Ideally, if you carry mints, take one for yourself, offer her one and then suggest she take the pack, telling her it's always good to have mints during job interviews. No mints? Ask a flight attendant for some (for yourself, of course). Still no luck? Tell her directly. It's kinder than indifference.
In a group of 30 young women, what are the chances the one you meet will be on her period?— G.L., New York, New York
Scheduling problems with your harem ? Many scientists believe that if your group of 30 women live together, such as in a college dorm, they may all eventually menstruate at the same time. In 1971 bsyclwlo-
gist Martha McClintock published a study that appeared to show this synchrony occurs; she and others suggest it is because women in close quarters signal one another with phero-mones. But other research has refuted what became known as "the McClintock effect," with scientists pointing out that because women's cycles begin at different limes, you will always have random overlaps. During the 1990s two Israeli researchers looked at college roommates, athletes, lesbian couples, mothers, sisters, friends and co-workers and sometimes found synchrony and sometimes not. More recently, a 2006 study looked at 186 women living in a dorm over a year
I am a 40-year-old white male who is smitten with a 25-year-old black co-worker with Playmate-like attributes. Recon reveals she's not interested, even for lunch. Am I too old? Too white? I'm not sure if I should pursue this or continue to feel like a jackass every time I see her.—J.S., Madison, Wisconsin
You've made the situation more uncomfortable than it needs to be by not being direct. We can't say why she's not interested, and she is under no obligation to explain. But what's a woman to think of a guy who must ask someone else to ask her to lunch on his behalf? You have no reason to feel like a jackass for indicating your interest. You cross that line only if you won't take no for an answer, especially in the workplace.
and found no synchrony. Based on this conflicting evidence, it's impossible to know a woman's status. But it hardly mailers: there are plenty of fun activities you can do with a menstruating woman in bed (including penetration: see soflcup.com), and for some women it's the horniest time of the month.
I read in a newspaper advice column the claim that many college women no longer wear panties but insert tampons to prevent staining their clothes with vaginal secretions. When I went to college some women were missing bras, but no one I met skipped panties. Have you heard of this?—B.L., Ferndale, California
Not yet. We're ambivalent about a woman wearing panties until she takes off her pants. And even then....
Un one side of my face my beard grows full and even, but on the other side it's uneven and patchy. I'm 27 and it seems as though it grows a little fuller each year. If I keep shaving, will it grow back thicker?—M.P., Cleveland, Ohio
No, shaving won 't help. Beard growth is determined by genetics and testosterone levels. Some men are hairy at 18, some don't achieve a full beard until their late 20s (which may offer hope) and a great many retreat to goatees. Some also experiment with Rogaine, but according to your compatriots on the weak-beard online support forums (and why not?) it can be a hassle and has unpredictable results. The same is said of testosterone gels, and we wouldn't mess around with either without consulting a dermatologist. There is one way to increase testosterone: In 1970 a researcher reported that his beard clippings weighed more when he was anticipating having sex and immediately after having sex. As usual, more sex is the answer.
I have always been attracted to wearing diapers (though not messing them). I have hinted at my fetish to get my wife's reaction, and it hasn't been good. I feel less guilty after searching online and seeing this is relatively common, but I'm afraid of losing her. I hope the Advisor can help, because I read the column and often see great advice for strange problems.—L.C., Appleton, Wisconsin
We assume you've been able to keep this from your wife because you have a satisfying mutual sex life that doesn't involve diapers. After our success in the beard-grower forums, we headed to the adult-diaper and infantilism-support community (adisc.org) and found a number of members who confirmed our belief: It's best to confess. You might first reveal to your wife that you have a special sexual interest. Let her digest that before you tell her what it is. Emphasize that you find her sexually arousing, that you value the relationship and that you feel you have to be honest with her, despite the risks. You'll be heartened to know many men who have revealed their diaper fantasies say it worked out. One guy showed his girlfriend a list of 10 "weird" fetishes he found online,
observed her reaction and asked which she thought was his (she guessed correctly on the second try). Another member told his wife after she discovered his online diaper order. He says he felt great relief, concluding, "If you are going to be in a seiioiis relationship with someone and know thai you can't give up the diapers, then you have to tell the person you love. This is something that they will have to know about you and have to decide whether they can accept it as part of your personality." If your interest includes seeing your wife or girlfriend in a diaper, members suggest you not bring that up during your first confessional conversation.
According to my wife I'm the only person in the world who would ask this, but when I fill up my Harley with super unleaded do I get what I'm paying for? When the previous customer used the pump he most likely pumped shitty regular. When I select the super unleaded, am I getting a half gallon of crap left in the hose?—T.B., Sabattus, Maine
We have only respect for a man who shows such devotion to his bike. Most pumps have a check valve that holds gas in the hose after a person finishes pumping. This is known as keeping the prime and prevents the next person from waiting 10 to 15 seconds for the gas to arrive from the tank. As a result, you might be pumping some lower-octane fuel before the higher octane arrives. But it's not going to feed 87 octane to your engine. Instead it will mix with the 91 octane your Harley requires and lower it by a tiny amount that has no effect on performance. For instance, if you fill a five-gallon tank and the third of a gallon in the hose is 87 octane but the rest is 91, your tank will be filled with 90.7 octane.
IVIy boyfriend refuses to take me to a strip club. Me says it would prevent him from enjoying himself. My ex-boyfriend would invite me for an annual tour of clubs to celebrate his friends' birthdays. I would dress up and guys would buy me lap dances. The dancers were always sweet to me. I particularly enjoyed fucking my boyfriend in the limo while the others were inside. My new boyfriend's ex is a dancer. Does that have something to do with it?—S.A., Baltimore, Maryland
Every guy has a different take on having his girlfriend or wife sitting next to him while another woman attempts to give him an erection. He knows, for good or ill, his partner is studying his reaction. Could it be that your ex was a tourist at the clubs, visiting only occasionally, while your current boyfriend is a regular who is friendly with the dancers? He may not be comfortable sharing that. Or perhaps, based on his most recent relationship, he feels it's best not to again mix his love and fantasy lives. See if he's willing to take you to a club where neither of you knows anyone, such as during a visit to New York or Las Vegas.
In the March 2010 issue you published a photo of Steve McQueen in which he has a double gold chain across his waist-
coat. I assume he has a pocket watch at one end. What should be attached to the other?—P.W., Yuen Long, Hong Kong
McQueen is wearing a double Albert chain, named for Qjieen Victoria's husband. Prince Albert. One chain hooks to a watch placed in a vest pocket and the other is usually attached to a pockelknife but could also hold a cigar cutler, loupe, vesta case, compass or even a USB flash drive. This item is placed in the opposite pocket of the vest. The T-bar at the center goes through the buttonhole, and a fob drop may be attached.
IVIy boyfriend and I are open to including others in our relationship and/or developing additional relationships. We belong to a supportive polyamorous community but like most in our small group want to date outsiders. I need a timely way to explain I'm in a relationship but also available. If I'm at a bar and mention a boyfriend, I'm shut off, which is understandable. But I also hate to explain my status in the first few minutes because it's like asking the guy if he's interested in me. On the other hand, the longer I wait, the more time he invests when he could be working someone he feels is more eligible. What to say? When to say it? Is it hopeless?—C.H., Bloomington, Indiana
Not at all. In The Ait and Etiquette of Polyamory, newly translated from the French, Francoise Simpere notes that a man is likely to ask early on if you have a boyfriend or husband. Your response, she says, should be that you are "faithful but not exclusive: you don't believe in a Prince Charming but rather that there are many men out there worthy of getting to know better." That should satisfy him. If not, and he starts quizzing you on how many lovers you 've had or wants details about your sex life, excuse yourself, writes Simpere, because "this is not the behavior of a gentleman." Simpere, who has had a dozen lovers during her 30 years of marriage, answers a number of other practical questions in her guide, such as "How should I handle things when my partner has several lovers and I have none?" "What should I do if a lover calls while we are eating?" and our favorite, "How can I ask my partner to babysit when I'm with a lover?" Simpere's solution is to alternate date nights: we say your lover should pay the sitter, even if it's your spouse.
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