Article: 19880101046

Title: Dear Playmates

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The question for the month:


Since sexual attraction is initially visual, how would you make love to a blind man and get him to "see" you?


God, that's a great question. I do like to see a good-looking body. That turns me on. I keep myself in good shape, which turns on my partner. If he couldn't see me, he'd have to feel me. Sex talk is wonderful. Now that I'm really thinking about this, it could be very exciting. Touching and talking are really more important than seeing. I could make love to a blind man. I'd stay and continue this conversation, but I'm going to find one.


Kymberly Paige, May 1987


Touching. Creating an environment for sex with incense and classical music. I love classical music when I'm making love. I don't count on my looks or his. I do look for energy and attitude, a sense of humor and a strong character. A powerful man who will treat me like a woman, meaning with sensitivity and consideration. We could bathe together. I could give him a massage, rub oil on his back and then roll him over! He wouldn't have to see me. But I would do all of these things with the right guy whether he could see me or not.


Luann Lee, January 1987

I'm not too attached to my own looks. If the man were blind, I'd first try to use my voice. It would be a little game. Since he couldn't see me, he'd have to use his imagination. My voice, soft music, a nice atmosphere and touching him around the face and hair. I'd massage him. I love the feel of skin. I'd continue to talk to him, trying to make him feel comfortable and relaxed. If he didn't have looks to go on, he'd have to rely on feelings, his and mine. Touching would be very important. And, after a while, so would silence.


Rebecca Ferratti, June 1986


I've never had a relationship based on looks. If I were having a relationship with a blind man, I'd make sure my hair was in good condition and my skin was very smooth, because different textures would be very important to him. He would be sensitive to touch. Smell would be important, too. Perfume would play a role. His finger tips would be sensitive. I would be his eyes. It would be an honest relationship. Why? Because even if his friends told him I was a good-looking girl, at the end of the day, if my personality sucked, he wouldn't be interested.


Marina Baker, March 1987

What is sensuous, aside from seeing your partner? Skin. A healthy, supple body. A blind man could feel that. Seeing is nothing compared with touch. Soft hair. A fit body. In some ways, it might make an encounter easier if it weren't all based on the visual things. Sex might be less inhibiting. On the other hand, I'd be dishonest if I pretended that visual stimulation wasn't a part of sexual attraction. You just don't need it as much when your other senses are working.


Julie Peterson, February 1987


If I can't visually stimulate him, what can I do? Is that the question? I don't think sex is all about physical beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. If two people care about each other, that in itself is stimulating. I feel confident about my attractiveness and I have a personality. I can convey that to someone who can't see me. Also, I'm attracted to comedians, men who can make me laugh and have something going for them besides a chiseled jaw. Humor is adorable and sexy.


Lynne Austin, July 1986

Send your questions to Dear Playmates, Playboy Building, 919 North Michigan Avenue, Chicago, Illinois 60611. We won't be able to answer every question, but we'll try.

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